Are you single this Valentine’s Day? Well, join the club because I am too! And you know what? There’s truly nothing wrong with it!

It’s frustrating how society often stigmatizes being single, particularly for women. Suddenly, everyone’s a detective, trying to figure out what’s “wrong” with you. Are you too picky? Do you have “high standards”? Or maybe you’re just not trying hard enough.

But being single is not a flaw, it never was. A woman does not need to have a partner to feel complete. Your worth is not dependent on any external factors like relationship status. In fact, being single should be celebrated rather than frowned upon. 

Being Single is Perfectly Fine

Solitude is a beautiful thing. It offers more opportunities for self-discovery, personal growth, and empowerment. When you’re single, you have the freedom to focus on yourself and your goals. You can chase your passion without the constraints or expectations that a relationship might bring (especially if it’s the wrong one!).

With lots of “me” time, you can cultivate a strong sense of self-awareness and independence. You get to curate a life of your own and focus on what you truly want. No more losing yourself because of compromises, unhealthy boundaries, and codependency.

Being single can also lead to deeper connections with your friends and family. You get to foster a greater appreciation for meaningful relationships that are beyond romantic partnerships. Plus, there’s more time for impromptu hangouts, movie nights, and unforgettable adventures with your friends!

Let Go of the Pressure

The best way to enjoy your singlehood is by letting go of the pressure to be with someone. Receiving flowers from a partner or going on a date won’t really make you feel happy if you aren’t happy with yourself in the first place. Jumping into a relationship solely due to societal pressure or because you feel like you can’t be alone can lead to all sorts of problems.

I learned, over the years, especially these past few months that I’ve been single, that love should come from within. True happiness and fulfillment are internal states that should not be reliant on external factors like finding “the one.” After all, those external factors may not always be reliable or within your control.

When love comes from within you, it is more stable and self-sustaining. You don’t let others dictate how you feel about yourself or your life. You can take ownership of your happiness and overall well-being. Isn’t it amazing to discover that the key to your happiness lies right within your own heart?

And when you love yourself unconditionally, you’re also better equipped to form healthy relationships with others (romantic or not). You’ll be able to set better boundaries and communicate your needs effectively because you are well-versed in your values and non-negotiables. When you prioritize self-love, you are laying a strong foundation for a life filled with joy, positivity, and confidence!

So how do you nurture yourself with self-love? 

Loving Yourself More

There are so many ways how you can love yourself more. I’ve even shared many ideas and activities in the past. You can click here if you’re looking for ideas specific to Valentine’s Day.

But the first step to do this is to believe that you are worth it!

You deserve nice things.

You deserve happiness.

You deserve love.

You don’t have to be more successful, more experienced, more knowledgeable, more fit… You don’t have to be more to deserve the good things that life will throw your way. Your unique self, with all the flaws and imperfections, is beautiful. And you are ENOUGH.